Book Review – Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims #RealAmericanMemoir

I received a free copy of Real American: A Memoir in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.

Imagine growing up confused about who you truly are.

In Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims, Julie discusses what it was like to grow up biracial in America and how it shaped who she is today.


Book Description

A fearless debut memoir in which beloved and bestselling How to Raise an Adult author Julie Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches in her recollections of growing up a biracial black woman in America.

Bringing a poetic sensibility to her prose to stunning effect, Lythcott-Haims briskly and stirringly evokes her personal battle with the low self-esteem that American racism routinely inflicts on people of color. The only child of a marriage between an African-American father and a white British mother, she shows indelibly how so-called “micro” aggressions in addition to blunt force insults can puncture a person’s inner life with a thousand sharp cuts. Real American expresses also, through Lythcott-Haims’s path to self-acceptance, the healing power of community in overcoming the hurtful isolation of being incessantly considered “the other.”

The author of the New York Times best-selling anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, Lythcott-Haims has written a different sort of book this time out, but one that will nevertheless resonate with the legions of students, educators and parents to whom she is now well known, by whom she is beloved, and to whom she has always provided wise and necessary counsel about how to embrace and nurture their best selves. Real American is an affecting memoir, an unforgettable cri de coeur, and a clarion call to all of us to live more wisely, generously and fully


My Review

I really enjoyed Real American. It’s an intensely personal book, written with unapologetic honesty and inspired by strong emotions. It really opened my eyes to what it means to grow up black or mixed in this country. The author was so raw about how she felt and how being raised in a mixed family left her confused about who she was. I truly think everyone should read this book it really gives insight into what it was like growing up in a time that was different. I dog-eared so many pages that moved me, way too many to try to include here. Toward the end of the book, Lythcott-Haims talks about Black Lives Matter and the series of police killings of black men and boys, and she relates her deep fear about her son’s safety as a dark-skinned boy. Really painful to read, especially as a mom of a son myself and in such turmoil times we are in.

I could go on and on about this book. I am so glad I got the opportunity to read it. It’s wasn’t always an easy read, but it is a good one, and surprisingly hard to put down.



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  1. I haven’t heard of this book, so I am really thankful for your review and blog post because it made me aware of it. I’m definitely bookmarking this to read. As a black woman in America, I would love to read about someone else’s perspective.

  2. Sounds very interesting & though difficult at times, I’m glad it was an overall good read for you. I enjoy reading memoir’s at different times in my life. I’ll have to add this to my list of books to check out. Thanks for the review.

  3. This sounds like a great book, and something that everyone should read. I think it’s such an important subject, and a memoir is a really personal way for people to understand it better.

  4. Love the review, you have such a nice writing style. I think it’s interesting to learn about how other people live, sometimes it’s good to be in someone else’s shoes, we all need to develop compassion and empathy and this sort of book helps with both.

  5. This book sounds really interesting. I don’t read very often as I seem to never have time to myself, but I might have to check this out! It sounds great.

  6. This sounds like a book that I need to read and than pass on to my mom! I am sure there are some interesting facts as well as opinions in this memoir that some of us need to hear or be reminded of. Thanks for the review!

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