Why I Am Glad My Son Watched 13 Reasons Why #Netflix

13 Reasons Why based on the novel of the same name written by Jay Asher has been in the news a lot lately.  There has been a lot of talk about whether or not it is suitable for tweens and teens to watch.  As a parent, I would say no to tweens and o use your judgment for your teen.

For me as a mom of a teen, I was glad I let my teen son watch this show with me.  Here is why.

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Disclaimer: Possible spoilers ahead.

About 13 Reasons Why

Clay Jensen, a shy high school student, returns home from school one day to find that he has received a mysterious package in the mail. It contains seven double-sided cassette tapes used by Hannah Baker, a classmate who has recently committed suicide. Each tape details a reason why she killed herself.

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Why I Was Glad my Son Saw This Show

As a mom, I try hard to protect my son from the world but I’m a realist and know my son has to go to school. This means he is someone else’s car for 8 hours a day.  Like any parent, I hope that when I send my kid to school he is watched over and taken care of. Sometimes that isn’t always the case. Whether its class sizes,  resources or just the fact the school system failed sometimes our children are left without help.

Because I am not with my son 24/7 and because he is good at covering his emotions I admit I sometimes miss signs I should have seen.  So when he randomly wander into the living room and sat down to watch 13 Reasons why with me I took as a mom and son bonding time. What I wasn’t prepared for is the door to open to a conversation that left me stunned.

You see my son has been having some issues this past year and though some were due to medical others I found out were from just daily interaction with other kids. As we watched the show we began to talk and it became clear that even though we live in a small town thing like bullying,  body shaming and yes even drugs were something my son had to deal with daily whether himself or with people he knew. We talked for hours after this show and were able to seek help not just for my son but for a friend of his who was struggling.

Watching 13 Reasons Why opened a door of communication that I’m  not sure would have opened otherwise. Mainly because my son is not a talker by nature and because I was naive and thought our school system was a good one that didn’t have a lot of big issues.

Should Your Kids See This Show

I would say if your child is under the age of 14 no definitely not its raw, emotional and hard-hitting. You older child maybe but that’s your call as to what you feel your child can handle. For me, my child had been handling a lot in real life issues that were hard so a show wasn’t going to be any harder.

Also, in my opinion, this show wasn’t meant to take the place of talking to your children it was entertainment. Whether that entertainment was for shock value, sadness or laughter it was entertainment. Much like other shows, people rave about ones that talk about the perfect murder or promote fooling around with multiple partners to find your true love it was a show, fiction.

Let’s Talk:

Have you seen this show yet? Do you plan to watch it?

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Rebecca is a boy mom, traveler, Disney addict, chocolate lover, and tea drinker. She lives in Florida and enjoys good food, good music, and a great book. Her goal in life is to live in the moment and to always be open to new things.

18 Comments

  1. This is a good post Rebecca. I’m glad that you are your son were able to talk about things more openly with each other. I have watched the show and yes, my boys 11 and 13 are too young, but someday I see myself watching with them and talking about the hard stuff. This show is raw, but I think it’s so true of what kids are/have been going through.

    • My son and i have always been able to talk about things but he is also very good at covering thing up as he doesn’t like to ask for help. But this show really helped to open doors. It is a hard show to watch as it’s raw but it truth kids face this reality everyday.

  2. My kids are still a little young for the show but I can definitely see how beneficial conversation was created between you and your son. Sometimes, a show can be a great start for difficult conversations. I know that is true with my son.
    TRaci

    • It was a great staring point it also made me aware of thing in my son’s school that I otherwise wouldn’t have known about. Especially as teachers weren’t talking about it.

  3. I have been hearing about “13 Reasons Why” all over the place but never actually knew what it was about. I am so glad it gave you and your son a way to talk about difficult situations.

  4. I watched the show and it hit me hard. I know a lot of people who have children around the ages 10 or so that let their kids watch it and I do not agree with that decision. Your son is an older teen who I think can relate to this show and can understand what is happening.

    • Yes i agree this show is not for children under 14 and even at 14 or older i would say watch it with your child. My son is 17 and so he is almost an adult but still i watched it with him. The scary part was learning things like this were happening in a school I thought was safer.

  5. I’m glad you shared this. I loved 13 Reasons Why but can see the pros and cons to letting kids watch it. The show was devastating, and it made me realize how lucky I was that my kids grew up before social media was so powerful.

  6. I watched the show when it first landed on Netflix, and I have to say I thought the way they covered the topics was fantastic. My only concern with the show was that if younger teens are watching (which they shouldn’t be, but I know a lot of my daughters friends have) they might think it’s OK to go out and get revenge in a similar way to what Hannah did, if that makes sense. I really hope that’s not the case though 🙂

    Louise x

    • I agree younger children should not watch and if a child is watching I encourage parents to watch with them as I did. I truly feel is you are watching together you can have an open line of communication with your child so they know you are there. Also, you can tell them this isn’t the correct way to get people to pay attention. I feel the show is a great one but it needs to be watched together so parents can be informed and so can the child.

  7. It’s a great talking piece, for sure. I teach middle school, and I don’t think most of them were ready for the topics or mature enough to handle it. But if their parents watched it with them and used it as a tool, it could be a great thing.

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