Older But Not wiser


I have come to learn that just because I am older does not mean I am wiser. People still confuse me and I still do not understand them. I don’t really. How does one tell another they are friends and that they like them but yet ignore them. How does a person pretend to like someone and are nice to them until they realize someone else can make their wishes come true. This confuses me if i tell someone they are a friend and that i like them it means i like them not for what they can do for me or what they can give me but them personally as a person. So how does a person live with themselves knowing they are using people to get what they want. I don’t understand this. call me naive, call me stupid but could someone please explain how this can be. I am truly at a lost for i thought i had a friend till they learned someone else could make their wishes come true of meeting someone they admire and all of sudden i no longer exist. now a few months later they act as though we have never talked. I am truly confused by the human mind.

Anyways hope everyone has a lovely Saturday and may your weekend be wonderful…hugs


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Rebecca is a boy mom, traveler, Disney addict, chocolate lover, and tea drinker. She lives in Florida and enjoys good food, good music, and a great book. Her goal in life is to live in the moment and to always be open to new things.


  1. Becca – that sort of thing can really hurt. BUT, believe me, it is their loss. I will never understand people like that either. Thinking what could they do for me, is the very last thing on my mind when I meet someone, and it would never come into the equation in any way, shape or form. Try not to let it get you down my friend. You're worth so much more than them, believe me.

  2. happened to me too once…one day everything is fine and the very next day they ignore you and u even don't know why. My motto is: The only people you need in your life are the ones that need you in theirs.
    Hope your weekend will be fabulous 😉

  3. You are alone, I felt this way too because I was betrayed by a friend recently. I think I got over it by understanding that 'change is constant', people change just like everything else around us and we have to accept it and move on.
    This was a good read 🙂

  4. people can be so cruel…and I dont understand it either, I am the same, if I am your friend it is forever…to bad more peeps dont feel the same…

    hugs 🙂

  5. becca, I'm sorry this happened to you. I don't get people either – which is weird given that both my jobs are public service jobs (and honestly this only exacerbates the confusion), but also explains why my closest relationships are through blogs, and that I identify so readily wtih Dexter – well, when he isn't killing.

    Hugs. 🙂

  6. Is that really the kind of friend you'd want anyway? People are shallow and there are a lot of pretenders out there. Only a small handfull are true friends. Wish they'd wear a sign on their heads though so we wouldn't even bother getting involved!!! Hugs.

  7. I don't have many friends anymore because people keep using me and I just can't deal with it anymore. People seem to think that a relationship with another person is just what that person can do for them and not much more after…

    It makes me sad and upset and I'm sorry Becca.

  8. This sucks big time. The risk is not wanting to get involved with someone after that in fear of being deceived again. But it's like having a car accident… the first thing we must do is get behind the wheel a.s.a.p. So, let's put all our love on the friends that are still around us!

  9. @Pawawanpi it's ok i have learned to be a little less trusting but i still take the risk and become friends

    @purplemist so true life goes on and so must we

    @timmythe robot i guess not but i have wonderful Angels to make up for it

    @Nick great motto and hope you have a great weekend as well..hugs

  10. when i sarted my current job, a girl mde friends with me. we sat together, car pooled etc. Great, until she went to work in one place and me in another. Then with other people who could help her in her career more than me, was dropped like a hot stone. These days she barely speaks to me. Leaves a bad taste when you discover the person you called friend is actually a user.
    Sorry you have been hurt. You really dont need shallow people like that in your life

  11. I think probably like me you do get wiser about some things. But people can be funny (in a not so humorous way) and unpredictable. I guess there's no point in me trying to spend too much time trying to figure out other people since I'm ultimately responsible for me and that's plenty.

    Tossing It Out

  12. The worst part is that the person probably doesn't even realize he/she is doing this. He/she is just naturally rude and selfish. Not your issue Becca.

  13. Hi Becca, just read your post and it made me so sad. I know how you feel. It baffles me too. all I can say is that it is better to be like you. You are a true friend to people and I am so sorry this person has taken advantage of you. In the end Karma will get them!
    just close your eyes and click your heels and say…theres no place like Disney…theres no place like Disney! ;o)
    Blessings, Joanne

  14. @Joanne thank you i'm clicking and my grandma was right you get back what you give so i'm sure this person will get threirs one day

  15. This really sucks, but I can so relate. As Thisisme said, that "friend" is the person who lost out, not you. They deprived themselves of a wonderful relationship with a great person (you) and will surely regret it later. Just continue being your wonderful self and make new friends with people who appreciate you and love you for you.

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